"To luve unluvit is ane pain."
__ Alexander Scott, "To Luve Unluvit"
Unrequited love is painful to both the lover and the putative beloved. It is an urging that comes unbidden and makes a wasteland of the heart. The lover's longing for reciprocation and union is met with the beloved's disdain and separation. All offers of affection are distasteful, all gifts returned. Nothing can change the heart that is not pledged.
Unrequited Love, though overwhelmingly powerful, usually is of finite duration simply because the beloved does not respond. The one who attempts to persuade the beloved to attend, who goes beyond the normal limits of trial, courtship, and persuasion, merely makes himself a nuisance.
When someone with whom we have had a long-standing relationship leaves us suddenly, there is little time to retract love: one side of the bridge of partnership is just no longer standing one day, but the old traffic of love does not come to a halt. The lyrics of songs of unrequited love now have a dimension of their own, as love enters the twilight zone of bereavement.
"Send greetings of affection to your beloved. If your relationship has come to a sudden end, express your love and sorrow in verse or song."
[From: "The Celtic Spirit" by Caitlin Matthews]
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